couches & birds

full time nomadic painter, currently anchored down as gallerist of Borough Gallery in Burlington's friendly streets

Despite all the odds, one year in and I’ve come to deeply adore this little shire I’ve been living in. Initially, upon moving here, I: cried, screamed, grew insufferably irritable, and generally looked at everyone here like they were absolute idiots to find the place any more than slightly charming and any less than pretentious and suffocating. I couldn’t relate to my area, simple as that. It’s a beautiful place to study, and it’s a beautiful place to hide away from the world. But, as a twenty something dying for energy and opportunities, I found the small community invasive and dull. More importantly, as a twenty something who was, at first, dying to be closer to a love that lived in one of the most energetic and artistically promising locations of present, and then became one half of a couple who shared and experienced the kind of no-one-else-in-the-world-exists-outside-us, beautifully simple romance this small town, small cabin in the woods during the depths of winter setting offers, and then became a truly single girl who realized her love was a crock of shit and therefor wanted to strangle “love” by it’s arrogant and righteously deceitful neck in as pithy a manner as possible…well, it’s easy to say I really fucking hated this place. I hated how hard it was to get around in the winter (haven’t they heard of a plow?! Unacceptable!), hated that the streets rolled up at 5pm (doesn’t anyone live here?!) despised the fact that no local person seemed to understand the terms “boundaries” or “social etiquette” (please don’t stand so close to me, we’re in a heavily UNpopulated area so I’m sure adding twenty inches between our rib cages will be perfectly okay, and no, I’m extremely uninterested in a competition to see who can outwit whom because for god knows why you feel the need to validate your existence. I am not that bored). Snarky much? Indeed. 
Clearly I was able to see the negative in everything, and all the positives just weren’t adding up to enough. I needed to laugh more, I needed to love more, I needed more to appreciate, I needed to be appreciated. Sometimes, however, all it really takes is the right people; the right kind of people who can show you how to go native and be okay with falling in love with an area you vowed to hate and forever despise. I’m assuming this is what happened, anyway. That and a lot of Hemmingway, as we all know that Ernie H can make just about anyone fall in love with small town, simple, everyday life as an artist. And it’s true, somehow, someway, I’ve grown terribly fond of watching the mist roll in through the valleys; finding the most desolate and rustic roads and trails and exploring them in battered running shoes; waking up with the sun to drink coffee over my notebook; carrying my canvas shoulder bag full of cheese, produce, bread, wine and eggs all made in town and creating a delicate and savory meal as the sun goes down, adding bits from the garden as they grow in and feeling thankful for all these goddamn sheep, cows and chickens that create the vast majority of the area and tasting the sweet, grassy terroir of my native land. My new roommate actually has friends and family members whose company I enjoy, and I’ve sometimes overtaken with just how spellbinding the beauty of this area is. I mean really, it’s abnormally beautiful. 
So, cheers to Middlebury, I guess you’re not that bad after all. Sorry for all that shit I spread about you for the first twelve months. 

Despite all the odds, one year in and I’ve come to deeply adore this little shire I’ve been living in. Initially, upon moving here, I: cried, screamed, grew insufferably irritable, and generally looked at everyone here like they were absolute idiots to find the place any more than slightly charming and any less than pretentious and suffocating. I couldn’t relate to my area, simple as that. It’s a beautiful place to study, and it’s a beautiful place to hide away from the world. But, as a twenty something dying for energy and opportunities, I found the small community invasive and dull. More importantly, as a twenty something who was, at first, dying to be closer to a love that lived in one of the most energetic and artistically promising locations of present, and then became one half of a couple who shared and experienced the kind of no-one-else-in-the-world-exists-outside-us, beautifully simple romance this small town, small cabin in the woods during the depths of winter setting offers, and then became a truly single girl who realized her love was a crock of shit and therefor wanted to strangle “love” by it’s arrogant and righteously deceitful neck in as pithy a manner as possible…well, it’s easy to say I really fucking hated this place. I hated how hard it was to get around in the winter (haven’t they heard of a plow?! Unacceptable!), hated that the streets rolled up at 5pm (doesn’t anyone live here?!) despised the fact that no local person seemed to understand the terms “boundaries” or “social etiquette” (please don’t stand so close to me, we’re in a heavily UNpopulated area so I’m sure adding twenty inches between our rib cages will be perfectly okay, and no, I’m extremely uninterested in a competition to see who can outwit whom because for god knows why you feel the need to validate your existence. I am not that bored). Snarky much? Indeed. 

Clearly I was able to see the negative in everything, and all the positives just weren’t adding up to enough. I needed to laugh more, I needed to love more, I needed more to appreciate, I needed to be appreciated. Sometimes, however, all it really takes is the right people; the right kind of people who can show you how to go native and be okay with falling in love with an area you vowed to hate and forever despise. I’m assuming this is what happened, anyway. That and a lot of Hemmingway, as we all know that Ernie H can make just about anyone fall in love with small town, simple, everyday life as an artist. And it’s true, somehow, someway, I’ve grown terribly fond of watching the mist roll in through the valleys; finding the most desolate and rustic roads and trails and exploring them in battered running shoes; waking up with the sun to drink coffee over my notebook; carrying my canvas shoulder bag full of cheese, produce, bread, wine and eggs all made in town and creating a delicate and savory meal as the sun goes down, adding bits from the garden as they grow in and feeling thankful for all these goddamn sheep, cows and chickens that create the vast majority of the area and tasting the sweet, grassy terroir of my native land. My new roommate actually has friends and family members whose company I enjoy, and I’ve sometimes overtaken with just how spellbinding the beauty of this area is. I mean really, it’s abnormally beautiful. 

So, cheers to Middlebury, I guess you’re not that bad after all. Sorry for all that shit I spread about you for the first twelve months. 

Infertility, eh? Vermont’s 1st place award for “lowest birth rates in the States” (from which this conclusion was made) spurred a rather zesty response from local journalists a few months back, and in one particular article a defense was made that, “Vermonters specifically choose to have fewer children to reduce our carbon footprint and live a more green and economical lifestyle”. We’re so pompous (cough cough, we have an alarmingly low percentage of young natives because there aren’t enough employment options and our population’s average age is somewhere around the 40’s & 50’s…hence the recent declaration that the “young Vermonter” is an “endangered species” um, cough cough). Hey young friends, let’s start our own businesses here…the state subsidizes energy efficient light bulbs! We can have fantastic lighting and no babies forever!!!!!

thedailywhat:

Infographic of the Day: Click through for an explanation of how each state got its mark of shame (bonus: Some states are the worst at two things!).
I’ll take worst drivers over ugliest residents any day.
[pleatedjeans.]

Infertility, eh? Vermont’s 1st place award for “lowest birth rates in the States” (from which this conclusion was made) spurred a rather zesty response from local journalists a few months back, and in one particular article a defense was made that, “Vermonters specifically choose to have fewer children to reduce our carbon footprint and live a more green and economical lifestyle”. We’re so pompous (cough cough, we have an alarmingly low percentage of young natives because there aren’t enough employment options and our population’s average age is somewhere around the 40’s & 50’s…hence the recent declaration that the “young Vermonter” is an “endangered species” um, cough cough). Hey young friends, let’s start our own businesses here…the state subsidizes energy efficient light bulbs! We can have fantastic lighting and no babies forever!!!!!

thedailywhat:

Infographic of the Day: Click through for an explanation of how each state got its mark of shame (bonus: Some states are the worst at two things!).

I’ll take worst drivers over ugliest residents any day.

[pleatedjeans.]

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Bringing Ghosts to Life

thedailywhat:

Infographic of the Day: Suddenly, Monday isn’t looking all that bad.
[deviantart.]

thedailywhat:

Infographic of the Day: Suddenly, Monday isn’t looking all that bad.

[deviantart.]

I’m pretty sure I forgot to brush my teeth today…I know, I know, I’m so desirable I swoon over myself. 

Ugh, floss, brush and listerine coming right up. Please be forgiving, universe, I have no health insurance. 

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“what’s going on this weekend”, you ask?

The problem, simply put, is that we cannot choose everything simultaneously. So we live in danger of becoming paralyzed by indecision, terrified that every choice might be the wrong choice.
Committed by Elizabeth Gilbert
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Please, ask me to do anything but decide

I heard once that throughout life I will always be looking for one of three things: A job, a boyfriend, or a living space (i.e. house, apt, etc.). But, what is to be said about the time in my life where I’m “looking” for all three? What if I’ve currently been living in that weird land of limbo where decisions seem too hard, nothing feels absolutely right, and the thought of committing to anything makes me literally feel nauseous? Does that just mean I haven’t been looking hard enough, or does it mean that the best is yet to come, and I’m right to hold out. Maybe the truth is just that I’m far more comfortable living in the safety of my mind, running around with all of the spectacular and perfect situations produced within the fantasy land of my day dreams, and making decisions would mean saying “no” to certain options-eliminating various daydreams from becoming a real life situations-and I just don’t want to rule anything out by saying “yes”. What the fuck is wrong with me? Did I read too many “choose your own ending” books as a child. Probably. Decisions intimidate me, and rather than walking through doors and allowing others to close I just open them all and spin around and stare at them. Le sigh, le sigh. 

Case in point:

Total crush alert. Setting: Autumn is ending, have fully let go of past love affair, decided it’s time to move on. Old college friend is suddenly back in my life, sparks are reignited, curiosity is followed by the familiar feeling of a warm hum deep within my heart. He eventually drops the “L” word, saying he’ll do anything for me, anything at all, because that is what love is. He wants me to move back down to nyc with him-he knows I’ve missed it-we will look for a new place, he’ll live anywhere except Sunnyside. Does he mean it? I don’t know. Does he push it? Yes. I respond with a resounding “maybe”, give me time to finish up things I want to cross off my Burlington list. For the next month all I dream about is creating a life with him in the city. I think about the colors of our walls, what it will be like to walk home to see his face, I dream of him holding me at any time I want. His mother writes to me often (bizarre, non?), I plan to attend his next opening (of course he is a painter), we’ll get things rolling. I get excited. The night before I plan to leave indecision sets in again-do I really want to do this? Decide to sleep on it. Have an early morning meeting at the gallery, will pack my bag and hop on the train after-his mother is excited to meet me (again). Send him a message asking what time the opening goes until, I’m running late. As I’m standing by my car, bag packed, I decide to leave fate to the salon-yeah, the salon-I really need a haircut, and if they have a last minute opening I’m going to take it as a sign to stay here. Ended up throwing my train money at my hair stylist. Bye bye, NY, bye bye boy. 

Winter continues, I become increasingly jealous of friends living in the city when they snag fantastic shows at galleries and I am continuing to show in the small venues available in this area. Bitch and moan, daydream about life in the city full of new artist friends, standout shows in reputable galleries, working as a gallerist at some of these galleries, nonstop access to museums, generally believe that life would be better in the city and I am stupid not to go. Decide to save money to move and put together a new and cutting edge (for this area, at least) show at my own gallery to keep me busy. Arrange apartment details with a friend in Harlem, I will be living there soon. Boy calls out of the blue-do I want a job at xyz gallery? Because he just snagged me a job there. What? Yes. I talk to the founder, he wants me, when can I get there? Can I be there when my current gallery’s show is done? Talk to boy, he says I will love the job, it’s perfect. He says when I get down there he will introduce me to everyone he knows, everyone. Artists, gallerists, musicians; I’ll have new friends asap, will book shows at galleries, life will be beautiful. I say I’ll let him know when I’m coming down, I’ll be down soon, have to finish with current show at my own gallery. Decision time was two weeks ago. I couldn’t decide. My own gallery was suddenly doing so well, summer is coming and that’s such a beautiful time in Vermont, I might have made some new friends I’m having fun with, I won’t have a space to paint in my new nyc apartment….acting on impulse I threw all of my “moving” money at student loans. All of it. Bye bye NY, bye bye boy. 

Was I not just offered everything I had been daydreaming about? Love, a vibrant new social life in the arts, a career in the arts, all in the city I had been longing to return to? And did I not just throw it all out the window? And I’d also like to mention that during this whole time I’ve been refraining from making connections here in Burlington -“I’ll be leaving soon! Don’t get involved with anything!!!” What. The. Fuck. Now that it appears I will, in fact, be in Vermont for a while, I guess I better start making it work. Stop saying no to dates, start looking for new jobs, start looking for apartments closer to my studio and gallery. Stop being such a pansy? Yeah. The boy and I hold three hour conversation that flow until the sun rises. I still don’t know what I want. He’s coming here this summer, I’m going to make him fall in love with Vermont’s lush summer season. He made a new piece that I’m positive was a depiction of me. The words, “I Love You” were plastered at the top. Does he mean it? I can’t decide. 

summer summer summer…